Thursday, June 30, 2011

My Roots Run Deep in South Georgia

First, let me thank all of you for your kind words on the death of my cousin, Herbert. I was again saddened a week later when my cousin Reggie also passed away. Although they knew each other well, Herbert and Reggie were not related. Herbert came from my paternal grandfather's side of the family and Reggie from my paternal grandmother's. They both led long lives and they both made an impact on mine.

While reading your thoughtful condolences, I noticed a number of you referred to Herbert as my uncle. This is probably because in my post I explained that Herbert's mother was sister to my grandfather. If you haven't delved into genealogy, this is a common mistake. I didn't understand the whole relationship thing until I started working on my family tree a number of years ago.

Ah, genealogy, the hobby that ties you to your roots. The thing that can make other family members run when they see you coming. It can also be the tie that binds you together with family members you either haven't seen for many years or those you never knew existed.

Herbert and Reggie were my first cousins, once removed. Simply put, this means they were my daddy's cousins, the once removed means that they are also my first cousins with a difference of one generation between us. To my children they were first cousins, twice removed, because there are two generations between them.

Herbert and Reggie's children are my second cousins. Have I lost you yet? I know it can be so confusing, don't you think? This explanation from might help clear this up a bit:

Cousin (a.k.a "first cousin")
Your first cousins are the people in your family who have two of the same grandparents as you. In other words, they are the children of your aunts and uncles.

Second Cousin
Your second cousins are the people in your family who have the same great-grandparents as you, but not the same grandparents.

Third, Fourth, and Fifth Cousins
Your third cousins have the same great-great-grandparents, fourth cousins have the same great-great-great-grandparents, and so on.

When the word "removed" is used to describe a relationship, it indicates that the two people are from different generations.

So, there you have it, a little genealogy tip from me to all of you. If you've never researched you family roots, I encourage you to do so. The stories, photos, memories, family events and love that have been shared are so precious to me, so if you've ever thought about researching your family, I encourage you to do so.

12 Thoughtful Comments:

Blondie's Journal said...

I am so very sorry for your losses, Rhonda. I must have missed the last post on your cousin Herbert. They did live nice long lives.

The family tree is interesting. We have made very simple ones when my kids needed them for school, it would be fun to see the whole picture. And thanks for clearing up "removed" for me, I never knew the meaning of that!

Hope you are having a good summer {other than your losses}.


Ms. Bake-it said...

Yay! You are back to blogging! When my cousin was visiting recently I tried to explain cousin genealogy to my DIL - boy was that fun! I think I confused her even more! Hopefully she will read this post and it will make more sense to her.

Big hugs to you!


Loui♥ said...

Dearest sea-sister of my heart!
what a rough time!
I've kept you in my prayers waiting to hear from you!
what a shock! one loss is bad..
but to lose two beloved family member so close together is terrible!!
Thanks for the Genealogy tips..
I work on mine sporadically!!
so Glad you are safely back home!!!!
can't wait for all the stories I know you have just waiting to be told!
I've missed you!!
warmest sandy hugs..

~Lavender Dreamer~ said...

I'm sorry for your losses, too...and happy to learn more about family ties! Your chart is very nice and the photo of you is beautiful! I think we could have been best friends back in '67! Although by then, I was a married teenager! Interesting post! Hugs! ♥

rjerdee said...

You're such a teacher, Rhonda. So willing to research on any topic.

I've never been able to get up the enthusiasm for genealogy father did a pretty good job on his side and, on my mother's side, there's a cousin out there who loves doing it. So...I haven't much to add!

Have a Happy Fourth :)

Della said...

I'm so sorry you lost another family member. It is so sad to see them go.

I sure would love to see your great grandpa George Henry's genealogy!

My in-laws have done loads of genealogy, clear back to the Mayflower, and beyond on one side. I know the other side goes back hundreds of years, also. It's fun to discover who your ancestors were, but can be nerve wracking, too!

Glad you are back! Love the picture of you! Big hugs!

erin's art and gardens said...

i am so very sorry for your recent losses. a double wammy, indeed.

may you find some joy this holiday weekend,

Kim@Snug Harbor said...

Glad to see you back and I'm sorry its been such a hectic couple of weeks for you. Be good to yourself. Hugs!

Arabella said...

oh, goodness - I'm so sorry to hear about this other loss. You're in my thoughts and prayers, sweetie.


Completely Coastal said...

My family is so tiny that I don't have to think about this, haha. Best wished and strenght, Rhonda..., and have a wonderful 4th of July.

Kristen said...

My sweet friend.... I am so sorry to hear about your losses. I am so glad your loved ones were able to live such full and beautiful lives before going home.

And your post on geneology was fascinating. I made a lot of those common mistakes until I took a trusts and estates class in law school and had to study the table of sanguinity. So interesting!!!

Hope you've had a beautiful and relaxing 4th of July... and I LOVE your new header :) That quote is an all-time favorite!

Julie@beingRUBY said...

HI Dear Rhonda
I didn't realise I had missed a post.. So sorry to hear this sad news on top of all that has been going on for you.. Hang in there.. ciao xxx Julie

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